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Your Daily Inspiration / Affirmation

“My beloved child, break your heart no longer. 

Each time you judge yourself you break your own heart.  You stop feeding on the love which is the wellspring of your vitality.   

The time has come, your time, to live, to celebrate, and see the goodness that you are.   

Let no one, no thing, no idea or ideal obstruct you.  

If one comes, even in the name of truth, forgive it for it’s unknowing.  Do not fight.  

Let go, and breathe into the goodness that you are.” 

(From the teachings of Kripaluanandaji (Babu-ji))

How to Increase Her Pleasure & Have Her See Stars

You may be a really great lover and you might have a rock'n sex life.  You might be committed to co-creating this with your present or future partner.  Wherever you are at, what benefits our intimate unions is us 1) choosing to be committed to them being great, 2)...

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Understanding & Defining Gender & Sexual Variancy

On Gender … For the majority of people one's gender is simple, clear, and defined: one is either a man or a woman. There is nothing complicated about it.  With gender, there is a small degree of room to play even as our society has certain "womanly" or "manly"...

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Are you Settling? 10 Good Reasons to Move on

Do you think you might be settling in your new or current relationship?  Do you want to be loved & cherished yet that isn't your experience?  Are you interested in a long-term partnership and questioning if the person you are dating is someone you want to continue...

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