Empowering Ideas, Theories and Writing About Gender, Sexuality & Identity

Exploring & creating new possibilities in experiencing more awareness, freedom, and power

in our relationship with ourselves, others, and the world.

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Your Daily Inspiration / Affirmation:

If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, 

then I can achieve it.

– Jesse Jackson (1983) 


How to Increase Her Pleasure & Have Her See Stars

You may be a really great lover and you might have a rock'n sex life.  You might be committed to co-creating this with your present or future partner.  Wherever you are at, what benefits our intimate unions is us 1) choosing to be committed to them being great, 2)...

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Understanding & Defining Gender & Sexual Variancy

On Gender … For the majority of people one's gender is simple, clear, and defined: one is either a man or a woman. There is nothing complicated about it.  With gender, there is a small degree of room to play even as our society has certain "womanly" or "manly"...

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Are you Settling? 10 Good Reasons to Move on

Do you think you might be settling in your new or current relationship?  Do you want to be loved & cherished yet that isn't your experience?  Are you interested in a long-term partnership and questioning if the person you are dating is someone you want to continue...

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